As new parents, there is this feeling of constant momentum inherent in taking care of a baby. A feeling of always having to do something: to prepare something, to do research on something, and of course to clean up something! This article for parents is helpful in reminding us all to re-charge. We get so used to going and going, it is often very hard to find discipline in letting ourselves rest and decompress. Somehow we get addicted to this feeling of constantly moving and we feel we are being more productive if we keep up this momentum but it is not the case. This last part is true for many people, not only new parents.
So, what can we do? First make a choice to not run in that impossible race that does not exist. Remember there is always going to be something else to do. The house may not look close to perfect for a while and even if it does it will only last a day! Make a conscious effort to force oneself to do nothing and to rest at times or reconnect to something that rejuvenates you. Your vitality and good mood are equally and probably more important to the health and well being of your little bean than most of the “Tasks” we need to do. Burnout is not something that benefits anyone at any time especially not as a new parent. Please use this article for parents as a reminder. There is of course true postpartum depression which is not what I’m speaking about. If there are symptoms of depression seek professional help immediately.
Sciatica or Sciatic nerve pain is a very common symptom for a variety of causes. These can include but are not limited to herniated disks, lower back strain and usually an impingement to the sciatic nerve. Sciatica can develop over time or be a sudden result of a quick and usually misaligned movement. Sciatica can be a short term or long term condition. Sciatica can be very debilitating and exhausting because there is often a loss of mobility and a good deal of pain involved with having sciatica.
The Sciatic nerve runs from the lower back through the Gluteals down the legs and finally branches to the foot. It exits the spinal column through the Sciatic Foramen created by the sacrum and hip bones. Any tight muscle or misalignment through these areas can cause sciatica. The lower back and Gluteals are particularly sensitive to strain especially if there is weakness or instability in the hip or Sacral-Iliac joint (base of the spine). The Periformis muscle can be responsible for “strangling” the nerve if it is very tight as it also lies in tandem with the sciatic nerve.
Sciatica can be a result of an already tired body pushing itself too hard as in my case. Years ago I suffered for about three weeks with sciatica and I still cringe when I think of the pain and exhaustion associated with it. I was teaching an introductory workshop on Cranial-Sacral therapy. The class was on the floor as many body-work classes can be. It was a soft, carpeted floor but the class involved a lot of twisting and turning on my part as I instructed and then observed students. The next day I had a client who had a very old and heavy table. As I lifted it from one room to the next I suddenly felt my back snap. It really startled me but I continued with the session. The next morning I couldn’t get out of bed. It took 15 minutes to stand up. I knew I was in trouble. Fortunately through some great physical therapy and massage it healed and I was able to function after about three weeks of dealing with the pain of sciatica. Now I try to schedule lighter days as my work can be very physical. I do not lift as many tables anymore but if I have to try to be more mindful of engaging my abdominal muscles when lifting.
Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our “psychological immune system” lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned.
The internet is filled with articles (including this website) with “tips.” “8 tips on…” “10 tips on…” It can be so easy to read through them in their entirety and either get overwhelmed or distracted because one tip leads to the next, then on to the next. Without integration in life there can be no true growth. The tragedy with all the information overload that is available nowadays is that we tend to miss the important stuff. We can buy self-help book after self-help book, but unless there is a genuine application of the material on a daily or weekly basis we are wasting our time, money and worse-our energy. The key with a tip is to make a commitment to do it no matter how you feel until it becomes a habit. After all you are adopting this tip to feel better or to get out of a rut so chances are you are not feeling so great when you begin. For example, cardiovascular exercise, we all know the many benefits of it, yet how many of us have bought cardio equipment for home use then let it become a coat rack over time? Gyms count on people buying memberships and not using them for this reason.