It is an unsettling time to feel stress at work. With the current economic climate most people who have jobs are considered the lucky ones. It is human to feel burn out on any job but essential to find alternatives as burnout can lead to depression, under-productivity and creates a negative atmosphere for those who suffer from it as well as to those around them. Therefore, it is important to try to address it before it becomes a real issue.
Professional development courses in any field will refresh, deepen and re-energize your enthusiasm for what you do. It is a great prevention and cure for burnout. Burnout can happen in any field. Usually in some of our most altruistic and important professions for our collective community i.e. nursing, teaching, etc.) Burnout can be difficult for someone who has spent vital years, money and energy on a given profession.
This is different from evolving into or changing professions. Something which is often a priority given that we need to grow and evolve as humans. Burnout feels like one is in a rut. When one feels like they are going through the motions in their work and not living presently.
Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our “psychological immune system” lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned.
Grief is a very personal and painful experience. Whatever means we use to find solace in our time of grief is significant and should be valued. I lost my mother to breast cancer at the age of sixteen. It was, as one could imagine a great shock to us all. A friend said to me in a strange consolation “I don’t know how I (meaning herself) would ever get through that kind of grief.” I said in a very stoic way I’m sure, “You just do.” She then repeated my words which evidently struck her…”You just do.”
As we drove away from the hospital after my mom passed away in my shock and grief, my greatest fear was that I would forget her: her face, her hands, her voice and eyes. I thought “well, now it’s been an hour since I’ve seen her. Someday it’ll be a year then five years, then ten!” Now, here it is twenty years this past August since I’ve seen her beautiful eyes in person. But here is the great, great thing about feelings, dreams, and yes, even grief. She is with me and I feel her – it may sound cliche or like my own fantasy hope but seriously, there have been several times where I had a dream of her and I woke up and I felt her presence-viscerally. This website is about listening to and honoring your senses and using your intellect to help sort through and deal with challenges we all face. Grief over a loved one is one of the biggest heartaches in our collective human experience.
I have tried to remove myself, to comprehend, even to get over this event but I know now that it is impossible. I’ve surrendered to that because it shapes every moment of your life after something like that happens. You no longer see people and the world in the same way. I really understand how fragile and impermanent this all is because I witnessed it first hand. My perception of time changed too. Most teenagers have an invincibility attached to their behavior-that was never a part of my viewpoint of the world.
Most of us feel overwhelmed and overtired during the holiday season. It can be a pressurized time with work deadlines, social obligations and family dynamics. A key at this time is to prioritize and to simplify.
Remember your mental and physical well being are always the priority. Without these you cannot meet those deadlines at work efficiently, enjoy the holiday festivities or any family responsibilities.
A sensible approach is to simplify. Maybe you just can’t make every party. After all, it is a spiritual time as well, so make some time for yourself-it’s Ok to withdraw and enjoy the quietness this season has to offer. A walk in the park or a get together over a cup of coffee may be better for your sanity than a day at the mall.