Nothing brings up more controversial feelings and debate in parenting than the topic of how we sleep with our baby. As a friend of mine puts it, “it is the lightening rod topic.” What I find so incredible about this subject and many things about parenting in general is how invasive people can be when discussing it. Maybe it stems from some deep-seeded tribal wisdom or consciousness that we are not attached to anymore. A way of protecting the young. The amount of advice offered so freely is amazing and can make even the most outspoken person’s head spin!
There have been many great and well informed articles written on the whole topic of co-sleeping and I encourage you to read the experts’ perspective on each side. Listen and notice how you feel while you are reading their words and make a sensible choice for yourself. This is important before you disclose your decision to relatives or even close friends so you know how you feel about it. It is always helpful to have some expert advice backing you up when dealing with others’ opinions on what you should be doing with your child.
If you ‘re in a rush for last minute holiday shopping or have high expectations on what gifts you may give this year. Here’s a thought, sometimes a meaningful gesture is worth more than a purchased gift. Consider offering assistance to your loved ones and friends that are simple and practical, but are highly appreciated. Your time and consideration are worth a great deal, and will be valued and remembered for a long time. If you are strapped for cash like many people this year, this is a less stressful way to celebrate that can deepen bonds between family members instead of always having a monetary attachment to your values!
So instead of rushing to the mall and dipping into your savings to buy the perfect gift, here are some sensible holiday gift ideas that are cost effective and helpful…[…]
Nestled in the bustling side-streets of SoHo is a true Haven amongst the busyness and at times, this chaotic center of shopping, restaurants and art galleries. Haven has been around since 1998 and is one of New York’s original and affordable day spas. The ambiance here is incredible in that as one walks through the halls it feels less like a spa in SoHo and more like a retreat in a remote and quiet place in New Mexico. Haven is gently well lit and inviting with warm hues of mauve and plum.
I have enjoyed a variety of services here as I proudly was employed for five years at this spa. This makes me favorably biased which is a good sign. Not everyone can recommend places they were previously employed. The owners have diligently put together a spa menu that is a head to toe fantastic and rejuvenating experience. From body treatments to specialized manicures and pedicures. I witnessed them consistently experiment till they would find the right combination of essential oils, scrubs and other delicious products for their services. It would be difficult to review all the services offered here but I recommend Haven highly as a full service spa for grooming and relaxing. Waxing is also available with both regular and organic wax for sensitive skin.
How many times have you thought…I wish I had better posture? Maybe at one time you did have good posture, but with years of being slumped over a computer, gravity has pulled you forward. Maybe you noticed your reflection accidentally and gasped ” What happened to me!”…Or like me you may have suffered from scoliosis since birth and always had difficulty feeling comfortable and aligned. We feel guarded and are protecting our hearts when we roll our shoulders forward. Life’s trials and tribulations understandably can do this to all of us. This makes us give-in to low self-esteem, leading our physicality to display any anxiousness we may feel inside.
Well, after many years of searching I can honestly say I have solved a good deal of my discomfort and found ways to sort out my posture. I’d like to share with you one simple seated technique you can do in a chair that will help. You can practice this even at work-no one has to know what you’re up to!
Good posture should feel Good! Not stiff or uncomfortable. Dismiss the saying you may have heard in grade school: “SIT UP STRAIGHT!.” It is incorrect. The truth is the spine has curves (Cervical, Thoracic, Lumbar and Sacral) Therefore, it only makes sense that we should align our posture in accordance with those curves.
Here’s the technique, which I call seated posture with coccyx bones pointed backward. (catchy title-I know). If you have Lordosis (sway back) posture this may not be the most effective technique for you. Feel your coccyx bones on the chair-they are the two bony parts under your bum! Most of us will sit on them pointing forward. Try arching your lower back a bit and have your coccyx bones pointing diagonally towards the back. Now feel how your spine stacks itself up on top of itself. Do you feel how your neck is in a better position? Try the old way with the coccyx pointing forward-you feel how your whole torso collapses onto itself and your neck jets forward? It is also more difficult to breath. Now try the new way-pointing those bones towards the back. There should not be too exaggerated of an arch of the spine. Feel your muscles support the spine. Now gently raise your chest up about an inch. This is referred to as “Heart to the sky.” Try it. Lift your heart to the sky. Now your chest is open and you have a better ability to breath. This position also feels great for the spirit! Gently look up to the ceiling, move your neck around a bit. This looking up will counterbalance constantly looking down.
Try this discretely next time you are in a meeting or an interview- you will feel so grounded and present because you are! It is very pleasant to be around someone in this state and you will probably get the job or the loan because you are solidly in your body not pretending to be confident. To pretend confidence is generally a turn off and a sure sign that you’re not secure. True confidence is presence and awareness-ability to roll with the punches/take what comes your way with dignity.
The position should feel relaxed and natural. This will probably happen more as you get used to it. Eventually you will be able to use it in standing and than in walking. Remember, Heart to the sky (and feet on the ground). Most importantly, this technique can greatly improve your posture.